XXX Magazines
My brother was staying at our place for a week on holidays. My 11 year old son was playing hide and seek with a friend and they came across a playboy magazine under my brothers bed. I am seething! I am mortified! I am extraordinarily embarrassed that I had to explain it all to this other child’s mother! I am so angry at my brother, and my son is so incredibly was too young to see such filth! What do I do? What do I say?
Use the opportunity to talk to your son about sex and pornography. First with both mum and dad present, ask what questions he has (he probably has a few). Tell him whatever he needs to know. Then discuss pornography with him. Don’t make him feel guilty or ashamed that he liked the pictures, males are visual after all. Tell him how it’s perfectly normal to like looking at pictures like that but explain to him that it isn’t like in real life and how in real life the act of sex is a loving and tender act between two people in love, not just an act of gratification for men like seen in pornography.
Explain some boundaries to your brother and tell him if he is to stay in your house such things shall not enter it. As for your son’s friend’s mother all I can say is good luck, I wouldn’t know where to start either, just pray she is the forgiving type. And as for your son, don’t be surprised if he goes hunting for that magazine again.
Chances are your son may have seen such things already. Just be happy that you just found out your son is definitely straight which means you will get grandbabies
First thing first get rid of the magazine. Then go talk to your son. Even if you send dad in to do the dirty work, he probably knows more about this topic anyway. As mums we get caught up emotionally in all that kind of thing, but all men see pornography eventually, and often they see it younger then we think. Dad will know what to say since I’m sure he’s been there and done that all before, he knows what your son is thinking and he knows what needs to be said. Just make sure you allow your son to know he’s not perverted for seeing it, or liking seeing it – you don’t want him feeling ashamed of his bodies natural functions.