2 Responses to NO!

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   octomum said: On September 8, 2010

   The best technique I ever learnt from my mother group was called about limiting choices. So where someone might say to their 3 year old son ‘it’s cold outside, how about you go put on a jacket’, and this is where your son says no. Instead you say ‘it’s cold outside, we best get a jacket – would you like your red or blue one’. Here you son doesn’t feel like he’s being told what to do, he’s being given a choice to express his own opinion, but either way you still win cause he’s wearing his jacket. The idea is to give them two options, either of which they choose you’d be happy with and they are happy because they got to choose.
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   Jo said: On September 11, 2010

   Do you use that word a lot yourself? I found my first son often mirrored back my behaviours to myself, and the worse the behaviour the more I disliked it. It wasn’t until my mother pointed out that he was copying me that I realized. I felt terrible that I had been correcting him the whole time while setting him a terrible example.